We were awed and honored last week as we listened to ourselves on Focus on the Family’s National Broadcast. The response has been phenomenal. We have received calls and emails from people all over the country, places such as Pennsylvania, Virginia, Ohio, Washington, New Jersey and many more. People shared that they too were wounded and could relate to our pain. Many shared about their childhood trauma or their current family struggles. Perhaps the most common question they ask is—“Can I really be healed of my childhood pain?” Our answer is always—“YES!”  We are living proof that the Lord can heal even deep trauma.

 Jeremiah 30:17 says, “I [The Lord] will heal thee of thy wounds and restore health unto thee.” And He has done this in our lives over and over again. The following are the steps of healing taken from our newest book Becoming a Family That Heals (Focus on the Family, Sept 1, 2009).

Step 1. What are your soul wounds and where did the wounding start?

Step 2. What are the messages of your soul wounds?

Step 3.  What are your adaptations? (the behaviors you do as a result)

Step 4. Ask the Lord to heal your soul wounds.

Step 5. What does the Word of God say about you?

These amazing steps taken with the Lord holding one hand and the Holy Spirit the other can lead you to freedom. There is so much more about this precious freedom in the book. Go online at Amazon.com September 1 and order your copy. We are counting down the days!

This is a big week for me (Bev). The first shipment of our newest book Becoming a Family That Heals, which was published by Focus on the Family, will be mailed out to a select few, and we will actually appear on Focus on the Family’s National Radio Broadcast Friday Aug 20 and 21, a life’s dream come true for me.

It would also have been my mother’s 79^th birthday if she were still living. You will find as you read the book that she died years ago, but was dead in her heart for a long time before that due to her mental illness. Because of it, she could not connect to her children and often abused me and my siblings both verbally and physically.

For years I was afraid to have kids, fearful that I would commit the same atrocities with them. But then the Lord came, and He became my father and mother. The book is about that journey and how you can resolve your past issues and free your future. Now after 40 years of loving and serving the Lord I have a wonderful family with grown kids whom I love dearly. It took years for me to believe that God loved me when my own mother couldn’t but HE DOES! And that makes every week a big week for me. However, this one is just a little more special. I hope you get the book and find the freedom you may be looking for.

Sept 1, 2009 Big Order Day on Amazon.com.

Copy and paste the following link:

http://www.amazon.com/Beverly-Rodgers/e/B001K8K3TE/ref=ntt_dp_epwbk_T1_0

We walked by the checkout counter to see the latest debacle in the Jon and Kate Gosselin saga. Apparently Jon says, “He is not cheating. He is in Love.” What he does not know is that he is not in love, he is simply on drugs! When we become infatuated with someone there is a chemical cocktail that is released in the brain. It consists of, among other things, phenylethylamine which is a chemical cousin to speed, so you feel powerfully “high” all the time. As with amphetamines, the high is exacerbated by fear, danger, and risk, and affairs are all about risky behavior. So Jon Gosselin, along with Governor Mark Sanford, thinks he is madly in love with his long lost soul mate. These men are only high on what researchers call “the love cocktail.” And what’s worse: this high does not last! Like with most chemicals, the body builds up a tolerance to them, and the effects eventually fade. So these men are risking their futures, their marriages, and their children’s well-being because of a feeling that will not last.

Gentlemen, do your research (There is a detailed account of the love cocktail in The Singlehood Phenomenon, Rodgers and Rodgers, pp.118-124), and come to your senses! You are not in love with your soul mate. You are high on brain chemicals that won’t last. In a few years that “soul mate” will be just another woman, and your children will be in shambles. It’s not worth it! Proverbs 5:18 says, “Rejoice in the wife of your youth.” We pray that with God’s help you will start rejoicing today.

We are here in 110 degree weather in Phoenix at the Association for Marriage and Family Ministries (AMFM) Conference. It’s only just begun but there’s a powerful spiritual synergy of people, the leaders of leaders in the country who desire to equip the church to build healthy relationships. One of our greatest surprises is that we received our newest book Becoming a Family that Heals in an early shipment for this conference. We are like excited parents with our newest child! This week we are presenting information on this book to eager, earnest pastors, mentors, counselors, and lay leaders. They will learn how to heal broken families by using the Soul Healing Love Model and receive tips for healthy parent-child communication—communication that will take the kids away from video games for at least five minutes! These tools also bring understanding and connection within family relationships, something that is greatly needed in homes today.

Blessings,

Drs. Bev and Tom

 *Becoming a Family that Heals will be available for purchase on Amazon.com and SoulHealingLove.com September 1, 2009