We walked by the checkout counter to see the latest debacle in the Jon and Kate Gosselin saga. Apparently Jon says, “He is not cheating. He is in Love.” What he does not know is that he is not in love, he is simply on drugs! When we become infatuated with someone there is a chemical cocktail that is released in the brain. It consists of, among other things, phenylethylamine which is a chemical cousin to speed, so you feel powerfully “high” all the time. As with amphetamines, the high is exacerbated by fear, danger, and risk, and affairs are all about risky behavior. So Jon Gosselin, along with Governor Mark Sanford, thinks he is madly in love with his long lost soul mate. These men are only high on what researchers call “the love cocktail.” And what’s worse: this high does not last! Like with most chemicals, the body builds up a tolerance to them, and the effects eventually fade. So these men are risking their futures, their marriages, and their children’s well-being because of a feeling that will not last.
Gentlemen, do your research (There is a detailed account of the love cocktail in The Singlehood Phenomenon, Rodgers and Rodgers, pp.118-124), and come to your senses! You are not in love with your soul mate. You are high on brain chemicals that won’t last. In a few years that “soul mate” will be just another woman, and your children will be in shambles. It’s not worth it! Proverbs 5:18 says, “Rejoice in the wife of your youth.” We pray that with God’s help you will start rejoicing today.
